One of the biggest problems I see with people is they listen to too many people. They subscribe to a thousand lists, take 50 pieces of advice and try to apply everything. Or sadly, they apply nothing and feel overwhelmed.
The way to learn is to learn from people who have done what you want to do and are currently doing what it is they teach.
Sadly, this isn't the case with hardly anybody.
Let me give you some examples:
1. They want to teach you how to be a “coach” but have never successfully been a coach.
2. They want to teach you how to build a business but haven't even made over a million dollars in two unrelated businesses.
3. They want to teach you a hairstyle or technique but haven't done it successfully themselves with proven results.
Of course, I could go on. At the end of the day, you have to be your own guru. This requires that you listen to your heart and find out what you really want in life.
And I can tell you from personal experience that nobody can tell you what life is best for you. Sure, they will SELL you that dream, but only you can make the final decision for your life.
Here's how I choose to learn from people:
1. I ask myself if they are doing what they are teaching. This is #1 in my book. It's the reason Ricky and I have our Million Dollar Stylist Mastermind. We don't “pre-record” anything. Everything we share every month is recorded that month and is real. We show and teach what we actually experience and do.
2. I dig DEEP. I never just read a book from an author. I read their book, all their blog posts, buy all their products, etc. I do the work. As I'm going through their material, I'm taking notes on how what I'm learning can apply to my businesses and I apply the information. If it works and makes me money, great. If it doesn't, no problem, everything is a lesson, not a problem.
3. I look at what they DO. Most people talk, they don't do. Most people are not action takers and are lazy. So I research their websites, what people say about them, their reputation, and much more.
4. Lastly, I look for RESULTS. Have they been successful doing what they teach? You would be surprised how many people want to be an “overnight expert” and claim “expert status” but haven't actually done anything. When you've been in this business as long as I have, you can spot these people pretty quickly.
I know the Internet can be crazy.
I know everyone is an expert and has perfect boobs and butt with 4 million Instagram followers.
I know everyone lives in a mansion with pet tigers and a maid.
You get what I'm saying. This whole game is designed to throw you off. It's designed to make you desire something that isn't real; that isn't for YOU.
You were created to be YOU. When it comes to mentoring, find someone who you resonate with and respect.
If you find that the person has become stagnant, or you've learned everything you can from them, move on and don't feel bad about it. This goes for Ricky and me also. Hold us to the same standard. I know I would if I were you.
Now take action and make sure you're getting the best advice possible. You only live once.